Reflections
Occasional reflections on therapy, spiritual direction, and the slow work of the inner life.
Psychotherapy · 3 min read
People often arrive carrying the quiet exhaustion of trying to improve themselves all the time. There is a difference between growth and relentless self-management.
Psychotherapy · 3 min read
Some wounds were formed slowly, over years of adaptation. They rarely soften through force. Depth-oriented work asks for patience.
Spiritual Direction · 3 min read
Silence is not automatically peaceful. Sometimes it first reveals what has long been waiting underneath.
Spiritual Direction · 3 min read
A human life is not a problem to solve completely. There are seasons for effort, seasons for waiting, and seasons for what emerges quietly beneath what once felt certain.
Psychotherapy · 3 min read
Grief does not only follow death. People grieve marriages, communities, faith traditions, identities, and versions of themselves they once expected to become.
Spiritual Direction · 3 min read
Not all wisdom arrives as certainty. Some of it arrives quietly, after a person has learned how to stay in conversation with what they do not yet fully understand.
Consultation · 3 min read
Sooner or later, most clinicians sit with a client who brings spiritual material into the room. Ethical spiritually integrated work begins with restraint.
Consultation · 3 min read
The language of faith deconstruction has become familiar to a lot of clinicians. But religious trauma often goes deeper than belief change.
Consultation · 3 min read
Spiritual emergence can evoke strong responses in clinicians. The therapist’s own reaction matters.
Consultation · 3 min read
Most clinicians practice in systems shaped by speed. Something can be lost when the entire field begins to imagine therapy primarily as problem-solving.
Consultation · 3 min read
Solutions matter. But solutions offered too quickly can unintentionally repeat what many clients already know too well.
Consultation · 3 min read
It is easy to become subtly hurried, even while appearing calm. Some kinds of knowing become available only when the therapist slows down.
Psychotherapy
Many people come to therapy hoping to understand themselves more clearly. Insight matters, but therapy often works best when insight is connected to the body.
Spiritual Direction
People often arrive asking some version of the same quiet question: What kind of support do I actually need right now?
Spiritual Direction
Sometimes, our inner world changes more quickly than we can make sense of it. For many, this does not feel like personal growth. It feels like everything is falling apart.
Psychotherapy
Many people arrive in therapy or spiritual direction with a deep understanding of themselves and a quiet frustration that nothing seems to change.
Psychotherapy
One of the most common frustrations people bring into therapy or spiritual direction is the sense that change is happening too slowly.
Psychotherapy
The Enneagram can be used superficially. It can also be used carefully, as a compassionate map of how people learn to adapt.
Psychotherapy
Many people come to therapy with the sense that something inside them is working against them. What if the parts that seem most difficult are not problems, but protectors trying to help?
Spiritual Direction
Leaving a religious, spiritual, family, or cultural tradition can be deeply upsetting. For some people, it is not only upsetting. It can feel traumatic.